Episode #30: Why you must prioritise YOU, and how to do that – with Lauren Ellis

Episode #30: Why you must prioritise YOU, and how to do that – with Lauren Ellis

by | Sep 8, 2022 | Matrescence, Motherhood, Selfcare, Tough Mothers, Truth

Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes
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In motherhood it is easy, and even socially encouraged, to put yourself last.

Society doesn’t tell mothers she must fill her cup – because you can’t pour from an empty cup. No, prioritising yourself to thrive and feel happy in motherhood is frowned upon, like the mother is selfish. So mothers don’t do it.

It isn’t selfish. It is imperative!

In this episode of MAMA, UNLEASHED! mum coach Lauren Ellis and I discuss in detail why you must prioritise yourself in motherhood and what happens if you don’t. We offer practical strategies and tools, you can modify to fit into your life and lifestyle, so you can prioritise yourself and truly thrive in motherhood and mothering.

Key takeaways from this episode of MAMA, UNLEASHED!:

♥    Prioritise real self-care: if you’re not thriving, your child won’t thrive

♥    Schedule time for you and your passions; keep it simple, make it fun and be flexible

♥    Tiny changes lead to big results

♥    Don’t use facts to make up stories about yourself and your life.

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In this episode you will learn: 
[Timestamps]

[3.30] Why we must ask all mothers: are you looking after yourself?

[7.50] We learn how to mother on the job, and that needs to change.

[10.10] Lauren’s 3 simple tips to start looking after yourself.

[15.55] Mothering is a huge task – we shouldn’t expect ourselves to mother and do everything we used to do as well.

[22.10] Why, in motherhood, it is important to find what lights you up and brings you joy as a WOMAN (not a mother!).

[27.15] Don’t underestimate the impact of little things and small changes – they significantly train your brain

[29.00] Stopping negative thought spirals using tools like these.

[37.30] Why it’s OK to be flawed.

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♥ You can learn more from Lauren on her podcast A Happy Positive Life which is all about self-care and self-development for mothers

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About my guest Lauren Ellis

Lauren Ellis is a mother of two with a third child on the way. She is the creator and host of A Happy, Positive Life podcast, which centres around self-care and self-development for mothers.

Lauren is also a coach for mums helping them to rediscover themselves and their passions outside of motherhood.

Through her coaching services, Lauren helps to guide women back to themselves when they’re feeling swallowed up by motherhood and provides advice and support to assist them in navigating their way through their motherhood journey.

Lauren’s mission is to teach women that they can be great mothers all while doing what they love and following their dreams.

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Episode #29: Matrescence: the gift that makes mothers superwomen (if you let it) – with Debra Summons

Episode #29: Matrescence: the gift that makes mothers superwomen (if you let it) – with Debra Summons

by | Aug 31, 2022 | Matrescence, Motherhood, Selfcare, Tough Mothers, Truth

Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes
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Imagine if every mother knew that she will go through a development transition – matrescence – when she becomes a mother, and that this would change her immensely.

Now, imagine if she had the information and knowledge to use her motherhood transformation to step into her power and truly thrive.

Matrescence – becoming a mother – is this transition. And not only do we not talk about the fact that we change when we become mothers, we don’t tell mothers that her matrescence journey may be her greatest gift.

Until today!

In this very special first episode of MAMA, UNLEASHED! I speak with powerhouse mum of three, entrepreneur and business owner Debra Summons. Deb very honestly shares her journey and struggles with becoming a mum, how not knowing about matrescence affected her experience, and how she now thanks the gift and opportunities she found in her suffering.

If you are struggling, feeling lost, unfulfilled or unsatisfied in motherhood, or just wondering “who am I now I’m a mum”, this episode is for you.
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Key takeaways from this episode of MAMA, UNLEASHED!:

♥    We must educate every mother about matrescence BEFORE she has her baby so she can be prepared for the changes within herself.

♥    Matrescence can be our greatest gift of personal power.

♥    Motherhood is just one hat we wear as women; we can’t let it consume us.

♥    It’s important to see our transition into, and our privilege of, motherhood, not as an imposition, but an opportunity to become our happiest self.

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In this episode you will learn: 

[Timestamps]

[4.18] Why we underestimate the new frontier of motherhood.

[5.40] Matrescence can begin when we start planning for a baby – how does that affect women?

[9.53] The postpartum period would be different for mothers if we focused more on educating the mother on how she will change during matrescence.

[12.05] Holding onto the pre-baby-you as you’re journeying through matrescence and becoming post-baby-you.

[15.10] Matrescence manifests differently for every woman, every time she has a baby. Hear Deb’s experience.

[22.00] Is it matrescence or postpartum depression? Also listen to episode 28 for more on this.

[27.20] Why we must differentiate between paid work and unpaid work

[32.15] “I wanted to be doing something I wasn’t doing”.

[39.50] The importance of putting yourself first in motherhood to thrive.

[41.55] If we can see motherhood as a privilege and an opportunity, rather than an imposition, it changes everything.

[54.10] The power is in going through matrescence – we have a duty to talk about it.

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MENTIONS AND INFORMATION

♥ “In Good Luck to you Leo Grande, Nancy [Emma Thompson] openly tells Leo [Daryl McCormack] that her children do not fulfill her.
She loves them, of course, but their existence is not enough to make her feel as if she has lived a fulfilled life and so she is left wondering about all the other things she could have done had she known there was a life outside the set path of motherhood.” – Laura Brodnik in Mamamia

Cover of the book I Wish Someone Had Told Me... - unspoken truths about what really happens to women during labour, childbirth and the first few weeks of motherhood

♥ Read Dr Jen’s book I Wish Someone Had Told Me… – unspoken truths about what really happens to women during labour, childbirth and the first few weeks of motherhood.

 

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About my guest Debra Summons

Debra Summons is a multi-talented mum of three teenagers who “fell out” of her paid career and into the unpaid, indescribably difficult yet joyful world of domestic work and motherhood.

For 10 years she nurtured her children and her husband’s career. Feeling unsatisfied, worthless and ultimately bored in her new role, Deb courageously sought to find balance in her life and to discover her purpose outside of being a mum.

Today, Deb supports talented, purpose-driven indiviuals, including mothers, to find their balance and create amazing businesses.

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Episode #28: Matrescence or Postpartum Depression?

Episode #28: Matrescence or Postpartum Depression?

by | Apr 6, 2022 | Matrescence, Motherhood, Selfcare, Tough Mothers, Truth

Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes

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Matrescence – the developmental transformation a woman goes through when she becomes a mother, is physical, psychological, emotional, social, and spiritual.

Thankfully the term matrescence is getting more and more well known. Finally, people are realising that when a woman becomes a mother she is forever changed. We are creating language around this monumental transformation that will help women better understand their transition, and themselves during this life-changing time.

Interestingly, for almost all mothers, matrescence can result in similar feelings to postpartum depression, which can be very concerning.

We ask ourselves, am I experiencing matrescence or postpartum depression?
Or both???

This episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast analyses this question to provide you with knowledge, so you can understand yourself, and your feelings better, and learn how to support yourself in motherhood.

Key takeaways from this episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast:
♥    Matrescence and postpartum depression can feel similar

♥    Matrescence manifests in mixed feelings

♥    Postpartum depression is an umbrella term

♥    Your knowledge of matrescence, and yourself during matrescence, is imperative for thriving in motherhood

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[Timestamps]

[3.45] How many scientific journals are dedicated to matrescence?

[5.00] Only 2% of people had heard of matrescence

[7.57] Matrescence is more than simply becoming a mother – we are changed!

[11.00] How we know women are changed when they become mothers

[13.55] Matrescence manifests differently for every woman

[15.30] We need terminology, knowledge and understanding around becoming a mother

[17.15] We must not pathologize matrescence

[20.15] How can we tell if we are experiencing matrescence or postpartum depression?

[27.30] Seek help from experts that understand matrescence

MENTIONS, MORE INFO and SUPPORT
♥ Learn more about my first book I Wish Someone Had Told Me – unspoken truths about what really happens to women during labour, childbirth and the first few weeks of motherhood

 

♥ Read Katie Rickson’s amazing article about her experience with matrescence and bipolar
♥ Work with me to learn more about matrescence and how you can use this life-changing time to truly thrive in motherhood.
We have TOUGH MOTHERS COURSES and WORKSHOPS to suit everyone
We implement a three-step framework to:
1) Help you understand how matrescence changes you, your brain and your mind
2) Show you how you can use these changes to truly thrive in motherhood.
 3) Teach you simple, science-based exercises you can easily modify to your unique self (and to fit into your busy day) to feel more fulfilled and be a truly happy mother.

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Episode #27: Alcohol, Motherhood and You – with Sarah Rusbatch

Episode #27: Alcohol, Motherhood and You – with Sarah Rusbatch

by | Mar 16, 2022 | Brain health, Matrescence, Mental health, Motherhood, Neuroplasticity, Selfcare, Stress reduction, Support, Tough Mothers, Truth

Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes

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Talking about not drinking alcohol is quite taboo. But Grey-Area Drinking Coach Sarah Rusbatch and I dared to go there in this episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast. We want you to know why alcohol is making you unhappy and anxious, how you can find your true self by putting down the bottle, and why mummy wine culture is so very damaging.
Don’t think this is a You-MUST-Stop-Drinking-Now episode. It is not! We merely share Sarah’s knowledge and our individual experiences with ditching booze, and how it has affected us and our mothering.
Key takeaways from this episode of the Tough Mothers Podcast:
♥    Taking a break from alcohol can be beneficial in more ways than one

♥    Alcohol does not make motherhood easier

♥    Your kids are affected by your drinking, even if you don’t realise it

♥    Choosing to ditch the drink will change your life

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[Timestamps]

[5.55] Many women’s drinking changes when they become mothers – alcohol becomes a reward in motherhood.

[7.15] Is alcohol self-care for mothers?

[8.00] Are you making rules around your drinking?

[9.45] Anxiety, alcohol and motherhood.

[12.50] The benefits of taking a break from drinking

[17.48] How not drinking improves your relationship with your kids

[20.00] What is a Grey-Area Drinker?

[22.10] You can have an addiction to alcohol and not be an “alcoholic”.

[23.00] How your brain changes when you drink alcohol

[25.00] Why drinking two or three times a week stops you from being your best

[26.32] Allowing yourself to face emotions without alcohol, helps you deal with them and makes you more resilient.

[30.40] How not drinking affects your kids

[33.45] The danger of mummy wine culture

[37.30] Sarah’s tips if you are worried about your drinking or are sober curious

MENTIONS, MORE INFO and SUPPORT
♥ Download Sarah’s free guide to taking a break from alcohol

♥ See Sarah’s top resources for changing your relationship with alcohol at www.sarahrusbatch.com

♥ The book Sarah mentioned: The Wine O’clock Myth by Lotta Dann

♥ Learn how you can truly thrive during motherhood with our TOUGH MOTHERS COURSES

A little more about my guest Sarah Rusbatch:

Sarah Rusbatch is a certified Women’s Health and Wellbeing Coach, an accredited Grey Area Drinking Coach and a keynote speaker sharing her journey to sobriety with audiences around the globe. She is also the face behind Perth’s growing Alcohol-Free Movement.

After developing what she describes as a ‘dysfunctional relationship with alcohol’, Sarah made the decision to remove alcohol from her life in early 2019 and has never looked back. She now works with women across the globe guiding them from feeling lost, stuck and out of control (something she fully understands herself), to a healthier and happier way of living. She is also the host of a thriving, global online community (The Women’s Wellbeing Collective) which offers a safe space where women feel seen and understood.

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Episode #26: 3 Ways to Create More Mental Space in Motherhood

Episode #26: 3 Ways to Create More Mental Space in Motherhood

by | Mar 2, 2022 | Brain health, Matrescence, Meditation, Mental health, Motherhood, Neuroplasticity, Selfcare, Stress reduction, Support, Tough Mothers, Truth

Motherhood fears and how to overcome them – with Belinda Hughes

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Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space, your mental space, lies your power to choose your response, and your response will determine how you feel and how you view the world.

As mothers we are often in knee-jerk mode*. In this state, when a stimulus comes our way, we do not have the mental space to choose our best response.

It is, therefore, imperative to elongate our mental space, so we can consciously and deliberately choose a response that serves us and our children, and help us create a fulfilled life.

This episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast details what mental space is, why you must elongate yours to thrive in motherhood, and three ways you can create more mental space today.

Key takeaways from this episode of the Tough Mothers Podcast:

♥    Make motherhood easier by learning how to consciously choose our responses.

♥    Knee-jerking your way through motherhood will make you unhappy.

♥    You can train your brain and mind to create more mental space and thrive.

* Tune in to the episode to find out what a knee-jerk reaction is.

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In this episode you will learn: 

[Timestamps]

[3.45] What is mental space?

[5.00] How motherhood is like a game of whack-a-mole.

[7.57] Motherhood trains our brain and mind to have a short mental space.

[11.00] What drives our knee-jerk reaction?

[13.55] Everything is a stimulus!

[15.30] Be happy in motherhood by elongating your mental space

[17.15] How to train your brain and mind to elongate your mental space

[20.15] The importance of deliberately choosing our response to every stimulus

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♥ START CREATING MORE MENTAL SPACE TODAY Download your FREE MORNING MAMA MEDITATION

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♥ WORK WITH ME to elongate your mental space in motherhood and thrive without even thinking about it.

We have TOUGH MOTHERS COURSES and WORKSHOPS to suit everyone

We implement a three-step framework to:
1) Help you understand how becoming a mother changes you, your brain and your mind
2) Show you how you can use these changes to create more mental space, to truly thrive in motherhood.
 3) Teach you simple, science-based exercises you can easily modify to your unique self (and to fit into your busy day) to create more mental space, feel more fulfilled and be a truly happy mother.

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