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When childbirth goes off the rails: "I wish someone had told me..."

“My baby would have died. We both would have died”

Yay, 2020 is almost done!

Pat yourself on the back. Go on, please do it!
We have achieved an incredible task – parenting through a pandemic. Not that it is all over, but I think we need to celebrate what we have achieved so far. Which is nothing short of amazing! ❤️

Personally, it has been one of the most challenging years of motherhood. And at the same time, one of the most rewarding. My kids and I pushed each other’s buttons, yet connected on a newer, deeper level. Like with all people, when you go through something as lifechanging as a pandemic together, your relationship is changed forever.

What a year!

The end of this year also marks my 10-year anniversary of being a mum.
Today 10 years ago my eldest baby made his spectacular entry into the world (that’s him in the header picture. Just a couple of hours old). And it really was spectacular in every sense of the word. We were not prepared for anything that happened during his “unconventional” birth.

In honour of all the amazing mums who have shared their journeys and experiences on The Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV this year, I would like to share with you his birth story in this episode  The unconventional, unexpected, unheard-of birth that started my journey to write I Wish Someone Had Told Me – unspoken truths about what really happens to women during labour, childbirth and the first few weeks of motherhood.
Because “I Wish Someone Had Told Me…” were literally the first words I uttered after my big boy was born – I’m talking 4.2kg big!

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In this episode of The Tough Mothers Podcast and Tough Mothers TV you will learn:

  • ✓ Childbirth does not always go the way you plan
  • ✓  Trust your yourself – you know what your body and your baby need
  • ✓  Be flexible with your birth plan; do what is best for you and your baby.
  • ✓  You are not alone! Many mums utter the words I Wish Someone Had Told Me… during childbirth and motherhood

I hope you have the most amazing holiday period with your loved ones. I wish you much peace, good health and calm.

Please remember, you are braver than you think, you are more resilient than you know, and you are tougher than you believe.

See you in 2021.


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